the Clues
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The Most Overlooked Reason Your Adult Child May Be Drifting Away
Sometimes adult child estrangement isn’t only about the past. Your child may still love you but simply not have the emotional bandwidth to do the work to help repair the relationship right now.
Your Parents Were Normal for Their Time. That Doesn't Mean You're Wrong to Hurt.
Estrangement has always existed. What’s new is the language we now have for pain earlier generations often had to swallow. This article explores how parents and adult children can tell the truth about hurt without losing compassion, humility, or the chance for repair.
What Is Your Decade Actually Asking of You?
Every decade asks a different question of us, and most family conflict comes from two people answering different ones. This is the introduction to the Generational Clues series, a decade-by-decade look at what each season of life is quietly asking of us, from the 20s through the 70s and beyond.
The 20s: We’ve All Been There. Just Not Like This.
Today’s 20-somethings are not becoming adults in the same world their parents did. They are trying to find themselves in a louder, faster, more expensive world — while parents are learning that distance is not always rejection. Sometimes, it is the space young adults need to become.